When someone does something to you, do you put all people who are similar into the one box? For example, is everyone who looks like Osama Bin Laden a terrorist? Are all men untrustworthy? Are all girls bitchy? Are all people who have a certain culture a certain way?
It can be so easy to stereotype people and put them into a box when all people are different. Could you begin to see that each individual does things according to their own values and what is important to them. Could you accept all cultures and human beings for their individuality? Within a culuture there are other cultures and within that there are smaller groups and then individuals. To stereotype them all as a certain way, we limit our experience and condemn people to being that way.
People can become the way we see them or they will rise up in defiance of the way they are being seen. This all depends on the individual and their response to being judged. If we are positive and see people as pure potential and possibility we allow them the chance to be just that! If we see them negatively and condemn them then that is all they have to live up to in your experience. What you affirm in your life, will eventually come true so be aware of what you are affirming about other people and love them just the way they are! Some people may disappoint you but wouldn't you rather expect the best!
In summary, people can only be for you the way you allow them to be. If you look at all men as untrustworthy then that is what they will become for you. If you look at them as individuals who can be trustworthy, you begin to attract the ones you truly want. If you look at cultures as interesting and something you can learn from then that is what you will get. Your focus determines your outcome so what are you choosing to focus on today?
Monday 29 August 2011
Loving Life
Do you find that you live your life for other people's expectations or intentions for you? What if you lived and loved your life the way you want to according to your own values. So often we change ourselves to fit with what someone else wants for us rather than thinking about what we want for ourselves.
Everyone has a unique set of values that they live by. This is a list of things that are important to you and dictate what you create in life. If something is important to you, then you will be doing it or want to do it. When you are not living by your own values, you will be resentful and there may even be chaos in your life.
Get to know what your values are by thinking about the things that are most important to you and listing them. You may find it challenging to do so at first but if you truly think about it, there are things you need in your life in the form of traits or actions that when you have them, or are doing them, you are loving life.
Imagine for a moment you are clear on what you want in life. This is allowing you not to fall into the plans of others but assisting you to make your own plans. Life naturally has challenges and when you are living your values those challenges don't go away but they seem so small because you are on track to living your divine path and purpose. Everyone has a purpose and to know that purpose you begin to see things differently.
When you live with purpose and meaning, you are able to deal with the trials and tribulations of life more easily and you can put an empowering meaning on what occurs. You are able to deal with situations with power and grace to cause you to live a life of love!
Everyone has a unique set of values that they live by. This is a list of things that are important to you and dictate what you create in life. If something is important to you, then you will be doing it or want to do it. When you are not living by your own values, you will be resentful and there may even be chaos in your life.
Get to know what your values are by thinking about the things that are most important to you and listing them. You may find it challenging to do so at first but if you truly think about it, there are things you need in your life in the form of traits or actions that when you have them, or are doing them, you are loving life.
Imagine for a moment you are clear on what you want in life. This is allowing you not to fall into the plans of others but assisting you to make your own plans. Life naturally has challenges and when you are living your values those challenges don't go away but they seem so small because you are on track to living your divine path and purpose. Everyone has a purpose and to know that purpose you begin to see things differently.
When you live with purpose and meaning, you are able to deal with the trials and tribulations of life more easily and you can put an empowering meaning on what occurs. You are able to deal with situations with power and grace to cause you to live a life of love!
Wednesday 24 August 2011
Love and the Fairytale
So often as women we can have a fantasy about what things should be like in relationships. You watch movies and read books and fairy tales and then think that the knight in shining armour will come and sweep you off your feet. You wait with anticipation wondering "is this him?" or "what about this one?"... You have such high expectations that your life will be like the movies you don't see what is in front of you! You miss the point of love and relating to the people who are in your life now or could be in your life if you allowed yourself to experience a balanced perspective. If you allowed yourself to know a kind of love that says that there are positive and negative aspects of all people. The key is to love them no matter what!
When you fantasise you put other people on pedestals, and in the instance of relationships you put men on pedestals. That's not fair to them, to expect them to live up to your movie fantasy and most often they will not because it isn't humanly possible. Do you await your prince or knight in shining armour to sweep you off your feet? Imagine the pressure on men to fulfill that fantasy? And you may be waiting for a while as life is never only positive, eventually there will be cracks in the fantasy and you will be awoken to the reality that people are human and will have traits and behaviours you may not like.
Sometimes your man will persue you and sometimes he will be focused on other aspects of life. Sometimes he will woo you and other times he will need to spend time taking care of himself. To place such high expectations on another human being is to cause yourself to be disappointed. By all means keep your standards high, but be realistic in your approach to love and relationships. Love yourself first and focus on being who you want to be and partner with a man with whom you want to walk the path of life!
When you fantasise you put other people on pedestals, and in the instance of relationships you put men on pedestals. That's not fair to them, to expect them to live up to your movie fantasy and most often they will not because it isn't humanly possible. Do you await your prince or knight in shining armour to sweep you off your feet? Imagine the pressure on men to fulfill that fantasy? And you may be waiting for a while as life is never only positive, eventually there will be cracks in the fantasy and you will be awoken to the reality that people are human and will have traits and behaviours you may not like.
Sometimes your man will persue you and sometimes he will be focused on other aspects of life. Sometimes he will woo you and other times he will need to spend time taking care of himself. To place such high expectations on another human being is to cause yourself to be disappointed. By all means keep your standards high, but be realistic in your approach to love and relationships. Love yourself first and focus on being who you want to be and partner with a man with whom you want to walk the path of life!
Friday 12 August 2011
Loving your body!
We all come in different shapes and sizes and are different shapes and sizes at different times in our lives. There is so much pressure to be 'skinny' and so many diets and punishments for our body out there that things can become very confusing. Get to know what works for you and what your version of loving your body is. If loving your body to you means being a size 10 then go ahead and do that! If it means being a size 16 then go ahead and do that! You might love your body by going walking or doing vigorous exercise. Each is perfect for you as long as you do some moving!
There is so much pressure from magazines, media and other forms of advertising to look and be a certain way. Do not give in to these influences! Be the way you want to be and love yourself just the way you are. If you are not happy with the way you are, love yourself to that place you truly want to be. Consider what you put into your body and how you treat your body. Do you do the things for yourself that you truly want to do and show yourself love the way that you truly want to be loved by you?
Over the years I have seen various ways of eating and exercising and it's about time you did things the way you want to do them. External pressures or motivation from external factors has no longevity. Once a motivation from an external factor is gone, you will no longer be able to sustain what you are doing. What are some internal motivators for you? This means, what are some things that motivate you from within yourself and what are your personal goals that you are working toward?
They say you should eat 5 - 6 small, regular meals per day and exercise 30 minutes per day. This is pretty easy to accomplish each day! I suggest you do this at least and then make a list of all the things you love to do for yourself and your body and do that!
There is so much pressure from magazines, media and other forms of advertising to look and be a certain way. Do not give in to these influences! Be the way you want to be and love yourself just the way you are. If you are not happy with the way you are, love yourself to that place you truly want to be. Consider what you put into your body and how you treat your body. Do you do the things for yourself that you truly want to do and show yourself love the way that you truly want to be loved by you?
Over the years I have seen various ways of eating and exercising and it's about time you did things the way you want to do them. External pressures or motivation from external factors has no longevity. Once a motivation from an external factor is gone, you will no longer be able to sustain what you are doing. What are some internal motivators for you? This means, what are some things that motivate you from within yourself and what are your personal goals that you are working toward?
They say you should eat 5 - 6 small, regular meals per day and exercise 30 minutes per day. This is pretty easy to accomplish each day! I suggest you do this at least and then make a list of all the things you love to do for yourself and your body and do that!
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