In life we spend a lot of our time at our work place. I believe it is very imporant to choose a career path that you are happy with and you enjoy waking up each morning embarking on. So often people get stuck in a work environment that they don't like because of fear. They are afraid to take on something new or of what will happen if they fail. What if there was no such thing as failure? What would you be doing with your life?
Growing up we are conditioned to see a career in a certain way. It may be that you think you need to be the CEO to be successful or you may be happy doing something else that takes a different sort of commitment to be good at. In that conditioning process, often people will take on a career path that their parents wanted them to do or something they thought would give them prestige or credit. And then that person lands up unfulfilled and wondering what happened with their life. Have you ever asked yourself why you are doing what you do? Have you ever thought about what you truly want to be doing with your life and where you want to be in 10 years time?
Wherever you are is perfect. Everything happens for a reason and no matter what you have been doing you have gained skills and experience to move forward with what you want to do. You may be working in your dream career and be perfectly happy with that or you may want to make some changes. Just think about what is important to you and where you would like to be spending your time and energy for the rest of your working life. Loving what you do is inspiring to others as you are inspired. It is rewarding and allows you to express yourself truly in all that you choose to do. So go forth with power and choose a career path that you love and can see yourself being an inspiration in.
Thursday 24 November 2011
Thursday 15 September 2011
Thought Systems
In life, we have a thought system which can often be subconscious and we don't know is there. When loving yourself, it is important to get to know what your subconscious thought patterns are and what is quietly driving you to do the things you do. The subconscious thought systems can be either positive or negative. Which ones are you experiencing? Are you getting the results you want in life? Do you continue to cycle in behavioural patterns that do not serve you?
Your thought systems will never always be positive and thinking that it will could cause you to be delusional. Get to know your thoughts and begin to do what I call "reframing". This is when you start to notice the negative self talk and turn it around to a believable statement that is positive. For example, if one of your thoughts is "I'm not good enough" then you can reframe that thought to say "Every day I work on being good enough". It is a sublte and believable statment to cause you to begin to see yourself differently.
Small changes in your thinking can have a large impact on your life and what you are projecting toward other people. You are always radiating your subconscious thought patterns and attracting to you what you want or what you don't want depending on what you are deep down thinking. There is no quick fix for shifting your thinking, it's a constant process of self awareness and self monitoring to be able to have a healthy self esteem and learn to love yourself in a way that suits you!!!
Your thought systems will never always be positive and thinking that it will could cause you to be delusional. Get to know your thoughts and begin to do what I call "reframing". This is when you start to notice the negative self talk and turn it around to a believable statement that is positive. For example, if one of your thoughts is "I'm not good enough" then you can reframe that thought to say "Every day I work on being good enough". It is a sublte and believable statment to cause you to begin to see yourself differently.
Small changes in your thinking can have a large impact on your life and what you are projecting toward other people. You are always radiating your subconscious thought patterns and attracting to you what you want or what you don't want depending on what you are deep down thinking. There is no quick fix for shifting your thinking, it's a constant process of self awareness and self monitoring to be able to have a healthy self esteem and learn to love yourself in a way that suits you!!!
Monday 29 August 2011
Love Individuality
When someone does something to you, do you put all people who are similar into the one box? For example, is everyone who looks like Osama Bin Laden a terrorist? Are all men untrustworthy? Are all girls bitchy? Are all people who have a certain culture a certain way?
It can be so easy to stereotype people and put them into a box when all people are different. Could you begin to see that each individual does things according to their own values and what is important to them. Could you accept all cultures and human beings for their individuality? Within a culuture there are other cultures and within that there are smaller groups and then individuals. To stereotype them all as a certain way, we limit our experience and condemn people to being that way.
People can become the way we see them or they will rise up in defiance of the way they are being seen. This all depends on the individual and their response to being judged. If we are positive and see people as pure potential and possibility we allow them the chance to be just that! If we see them negatively and condemn them then that is all they have to live up to in your experience. What you affirm in your life, will eventually come true so be aware of what you are affirming about other people and love them just the way they are! Some people may disappoint you but wouldn't you rather expect the best!
In summary, people can only be for you the way you allow them to be. If you look at all men as untrustworthy then that is what they will become for you. If you look at them as individuals who can be trustworthy, you begin to attract the ones you truly want. If you look at cultures as interesting and something you can learn from then that is what you will get. Your focus determines your outcome so what are you choosing to focus on today?
It can be so easy to stereotype people and put them into a box when all people are different. Could you begin to see that each individual does things according to their own values and what is important to them. Could you accept all cultures and human beings for their individuality? Within a culuture there are other cultures and within that there are smaller groups and then individuals. To stereotype them all as a certain way, we limit our experience and condemn people to being that way.
People can become the way we see them or they will rise up in defiance of the way they are being seen. This all depends on the individual and their response to being judged. If we are positive and see people as pure potential and possibility we allow them the chance to be just that! If we see them negatively and condemn them then that is all they have to live up to in your experience. What you affirm in your life, will eventually come true so be aware of what you are affirming about other people and love them just the way they are! Some people may disappoint you but wouldn't you rather expect the best!
In summary, people can only be for you the way you allow them to be. If you look at all men as untrustworthy then that is what they will become for you. If you look at them as individuals who can be trustworthy, you begin to attract the ones you truly want. If you look at cultures as interesting and something you can learn from then that is what you will get. Your focus determines your outcome so what are you choosing to focus on today?
Loving Life
Do you find that you live your life for other people's expectations or intentions for you? What if you lived and loved your life the way you want to according to your own values. So often we change ourselves to fit with what someone else wants for us rather than thinking about what we want for ourselves.
Everyone has a unique set of values that they live by. This is a list of things that are important to you and dictate what you create in life. If something is important to you, then you will be doing it or want to do it. When you are not living by your own values, you will be resentful and there may even be chaos in your life.
Get to know what your values are by thinking about the things that are most important to you and listing them. You may find it challenging to do so at first but if you truly think about it, there are things you need in your life in the form of traits or actions that when you have them, or are doing them, you are loving life.
Imagine for a moment you are clear on what you want in life. This is allowing you not to fall into the plans of others but assisting you to make your own plans. Life naturally has challenges and when you are living your values those challenges don't go away but they seem so small because you are on track to living your divine path and purpose. Everyone has a purpose and to know that purpose you begin to see things differently.
When you live with purpose and meaning, you are able to deal with the trials and tribulations of life more easily and you can put an empowering meaning on what occurs. You are able to deal with situations with power and grace to cause you to live a life of love!
Everyone has a unique set of values that they live by. This is a list of things that are important to you and dictate what you create in life. If something is important to you, then you will be doing it or want to do it. When you are not living by your own values, you will be resentful and there may even be chaos in your life.
Get to know what your values are by thinking about the things that are most important to you and listing them. You may find it challenging to do so at first but if you truly think about it, there are things you need in your life in the form of traits or actions that when you have them, or are doing them, you are loving life.
Imagine for a moment you are clear on what you want in life. This is allowing you not to fall into the plans of others but assisting you to make your own plans. Life naturally has challenges and when you are living your values those challenges don't go away but they seem so small because you are on track to living your divine path and purpose. Everyone has a purpose and to know that purpose you begin to see things differently.
When you live with purpose and meaning, you are able to deal with the trials and tribulations of life more easily and you can put an empowering meaning on what occurs. You are able to deal with situations with power and grace to cause you to live a life of love!
Wednesday 24 August 2011
Love and the Fairytale
So often as women we can have a fantasy about what things should be like in relationships. You watch movies and read books and fairy tales and then think that the knight in shining armour will come and sweep you off your feet. You wait with anticipation wondering "is this him?" or "what about this one?"... You have such high expectations that your life will be like the movies you don't see what is in front of you! You miss the point of love and relating to the people who are in your life now or could be in your life if you allowed yourself to experience a balanced perspective. If you allowed yourself to know a kind of love that says that there are positive and negative aspects of all people. The key is to love them no matter what!
When you fantasise you put other people on pedestals, and in the instance of relationships you put men on pedestals. That's not fair to them, to expect them to live up to your movie fantasy and most often they will not because it isn't humanly possible. Do you await your prince or knight in shining armour to sweep you off your feet? Imagine the pressure on men to fulfill that fantasy? And you may be waiting for a while as life is never only positive, eventually there will be cracks in the fantasy and you will be awoken to the reality that people are human and will have traits and behaviours you may not like.
Sometimes your man will persue you and sometimes he will be focused on other aspects of life. Sometimes he will woo you and other times he will need to spend time taking care of himself. To place such high expectations on another human being is to cause yourself to be disappointed. By all means keep your standards high, but be realistic in your approach to love and relationships. Love yourself first and focus on being who you want to be and partner with a man with whom you want to walk the path of life!
When you fantasise you put other people on pedestals, and in the instance of relationships you put men on pedestals. That's not fair to them, to expect them to live up to your movie fantasy and most often they will not because it isn't humanly possible. Do you await your prince or knight in shining armour to sweep you off your feet? Imagine the pressure on men to fulfill that fantasy? And you may be waiting for a while as life is never only positive, eventually there will be cracks in the fantasy and you will be awoken to the reality that people are human and will have traits and behaviours you may not like.
Sometimes your man will persue you and sometimes he will be focused on other aspects of life. Sometimes he will woo you and other times he will need to spend time taking care of himself. To place such high expectations on another human being is to cause yourself to be disappointed. By all means keep your standards high, but be realistic in your approach to love and relationships. Love yourself first and focus on being who you want to be and partner with a man with whom you want to walk the path of life!
Friday 12 August 2011
Loving your body!
We all come in different shapes and sizes and are different shapes and sizes at different times in our lives. There is so much pressure to be 'skinny' and so many diets and punishments for our body out there that things can become very confusing. Get to know what works for you and what your version of loving your body is. If loving your body to you means being a size 10 then go ahead and do that! If it means being a size 16 then go ahead and do that! You might love your body by going walking or doing vigorous exercise. Each is perfect for you as long as you do some moving!
There is so much pressure from magazines, media and other forms of advertising to look and be a certain way. Do not give in to these influences! Be the way you want to be and love yourself just the way you are. If you are not happy with the way you are, love yourself to that place you truly want to be. Consider what you put into your body and how you treat your body. Do you do the things for yourself that you truly want to do and show yourself love the way that you truly want to be loved by you?
Over the years I have seen various ways of eating and exercising and it's about time you did things the way you want to do them. External pressures or motivation from external factors has no longevity. Once a motivation from an external factor is gone, you will no longer be able to sustain what you are doing. What are some internal motivators for you? This means, what are some things that motivate you from within yourself and what are your personal goals that you are working toward?
They say you should eat 5 - 6 small, regular meals per day and exercise 30 minutes per day. This is pretty easy to accomplish each day! I suggest you do this at least and then make a list of all the things you love to do for yourself and your body and do that!
There is so much pressure from magazines, media and other forms of advertising to look and be a certain way. Do not give in to these influences! Be the way you want to be and love yourself just the way you are. If you are not happy with the way you are, love yourself to that place you truly want to be. Consider what you put into your body and how you treat your body. Do you do the things for yourself that you truly want to do and show yourself love the way that you truly want to be loved by you?
Over the years I have seen various ways of eating and exercising and it's about time you did things the way you want to do them. External pressures or motivation from external factors has no longevity. Once a motivation from an external factor is gone, you will no longer be able to sustain what you are doing. What are some internal motivators for you? This means, what are some things that motivate you from within yourself and what are your personal goals that you are working toward?
They say you should eat 5 - 6 small, regular meals per day and exercise 30 minutes per day. This is pretty easy to accomplish each day! I suggest you do this at least and then make a list of all the things you love to do for yourself and your body and do that!
Friday 8 July 2011
What is Loving Yourself?
I believe that loving yourself can take many different forms and that most people will have a different view on what loveing ones self really looks and feels like. Loving yourself could be doing physical things like exercise, eating well and taking care of your looks. And it could be psychological or emotinoal things like the way you think about yourself and the way you feel about yourself. All ways of loving yourself are the perfect approach.
I have my belief that there are seven areas of life and we are constantly working at balancing them and loving ourselves in them. The seven areas are spirituality, relationships, health, career, family, finances and mindset. In each of these areas we constantly seek ways to love ourselves and you may be working on one area while another person may be working on another. Your results in life will be determined by your focus and the direction you place your attention. Consider what results you want to achieve in life and notice what you have been focusing on and begin to focus on what you truly want.
In considering your focus and where you place your attention, are you getting what you truly desire out of life? Are you loving yourself in a way that is condusive to the life you want to lead? Always know that love is ever present and there is an abundance of it. If you are feeling uloved, try to find that love within yourself and notice how different you will begin to feel about yourself in doing so.
Love is something that isn't talked about by a lot of people and families. It is sometimes a taboo subject that is pushed under the carpet. Do you tell people you love them and let them know that you care? Remember here that different people show love in different ways. Some may give gifts, others speak it out loud, some may be touchy feely and the list of options goes on. Get to know how you like to be loved and let others know that is the way you know you are loved.
I have my belief that there are seven areas of life and we are constantly working at balancing them and loving ourselves in them. The seven areas are spirituality, relationships, health, career, family, finances and mindset. In each of these areas we constantly seek ways to love ourselves and you may be working on one area while another person may be working on another. Your results in life will be determined by your focus and the direction you place your attention. Consider what results you want to achieve in life and notice what you have been focusing on and begin to focus on what you truly want.
In considering your focus and where you place your attention, are you getting what you truly desire out of life? Are you loving yourself in a way that is condusive to the life you want to lead? Always know that love is ever present and there is an abundance of it. If you are feeling uloved, try to find that love within yourself and notice how different you will begin to feel about yourself in doing so.
Love is something that isn't talked about by a lot of people and families. It is sometimes a taboo subject that is pushed under the carpet. Do you tell people you love them and let them know that you care? Remember here that different people show love in different ways. Some may give gifts, others speak it out loud, some may be touchy feely and the list of options goes on. Get to know how you like to be loved and let others know that is the way you know you are loved.
Career
In life it is important to choose your career wisely. It’s where you spend most of your time so why not make the most of it. So often we do jobs and things that we do not love or are not leading us in the direction we really want to go. Be clear on what you want and where you are going in life and you won’t fall into the plans of someone else. Know your outcomes and walk the path of your career with power and grace. Sometimes we need to do things that we don’t really like but if you focus on the bigger picture, you will quickly find that things aren’t that bad and as you are walking in the direction you truly wish to go you can put your mind at ease. What can you do today to begin to walk in the direction you truly want to go. What small steps do you want to take today to lead you in the direction of your true passion in life?
Relationships
We are always relating no matte what! So it’s important to notice how you relate on a day to day basis with other people. Relationships aren’t just with the opposite sex in an intimate relationship, they are something that we have with many many different people in our lives. If you want to improve your relationships, think about who you are showing up as with other people. What that means is, consider your thoughts about people, your inner beliefs about connection and what your soul is saying to you in each interaction with others. Often in our soul we are craving the connection with other people to cause us to do things and act out to get attention. This may not always be a positive acting out, it may be negative behaviour to get someone’s attention. Who are you showing up as in relationships and what are your inner most thoughts about relationships?
Health
How’s your health going? It is something that requires focus and determination for some of us and something that comes easily for others. Taking care of yourself is something that is important for our wellbeing on all levels. Do you have fitness goals? If so, great and if not, what goals can you make today? When setting your fitness goals, make sure they are realistic and achievable. Often we put pressure on ourselves to do things harder or faster than is humanly possible. In setting your goals, be sure to make the decision on what you want, commit to that and take action in a grounded and fun way!
Femininity
It is so important to balance your masculine and feminine so you can be who you truly want to be in this life. Over the years with the Feminist movement and more and more independent women, we generally have become more masculine to be able to get things done. There is financial success, career success, balancing career and children and simply doing it all. Now, it’s imporatant not to blame the Feminists or anyone else for this, it has all served it’s purpose in the grand scheme of things especailly in freeing women to be able to make choices. The thing is, this masculinisation has caused many rifts in relationships with men and women (all types of relationships) and has caused women to tire and be worn out from the constant pressure and the confusion. So, where do you sit in this balancing act of masculine and feminine? Do you struggle to feel like a woman and tap into the inner girl? I have found over the years that it is imperative to do the things that make you know you are a woman. Often harboring old issues and the past can be a cause of a woman’s masculinisation and to dampen the feminine glow. What are you going to do today to allow your inner woman to shine and balance your life in love and inner peace?
Beautiful You
You are a beautiful feminine being and it is your natural way of being that causes you to be able to attract all the things you love in this world. It is your inner light that shines brightly from your soul that radiates the love and attraction that really counts. It does not matter what your body looks like, it does not matter what colour your hair is or what clothes you wear. What matters is who you truly are and who you show up as in this life. What that means is you are just perfect as you are knowing that you have the power to make changes in your life if you choose. It means that you are the one who is in charge of your life therefore your results and if you show up as that woman who is taking responsibility for your life, you will shine brightly. You will be able to create all that you are on this earth to create and you will be able to do the things that you really want to do. Femininity is your natural way of being and it is the key to your inner knowingness. Balancing your masuculine and feminine is the secret to the miracles and creating results in your life.
Spirituality
Often in life we place conditions on others and expect them to live by our values… what if everyone has their own set of values and the most powerful thing to do is allow each and every person to live by their values. Do you find yourself judging others for the way they look, the things they do, or don’t do? What about yourself? Do you judge yourself for all those things? You wouldn’t be human if you weren’t judging things, it’s how you choose to deal with that judgement that counts. Some people beat themselves up or ridicule others. Unconditional love is when you can love all aspects of another human being and the world putting all judgement aside, to just be. The only person harmed by judgement is you no matter whether judging yourself or others. You have to live with yourself so what are you going to choose to do? What if you could love the positive and negative in others? How would your life be different?
Welcome...
Welcome to my blog, this is a place where you can enjoy yourself and sit back and learn to love yourself just the way you are. Loving yourself is a constant journey of discovery and with each and every event in your life you are drawn closer to who you truly are. It is my belief that we are all searching for love in the sense of true love as the person we truly are. So, how do we know who we truly are? That is the perfect question that only you can answer. Love is about the unconditional and ever evolving aspects of life. It is the ever present knowing of something greater than us that causes miracles to occur. As we are drawn closer to love, we shine brighter in the knowingness of the true self. As you open your eyes to a divine order, you begin to see that everything happens for a reason and you are the master of your destiny.
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