Love and the Fairytale

So often as women we can have a fantasy about what things should be like in relationships.  You watch movies and read books and fairy tales and then think that the knight in shining armour will come and sweep you off your feet.  You wait with anticipation wondering "is this him?" or "what about this one?"... You have such high expectations that your life will be like the movies you don't see what is in front of you!  You miss the point of love and relating to the people who are in your life now or could be in your life if you allowed yourself to experience a balanced perspective. If you allowed yourself to know a kind of love that says that there are positive and negative aspects of all people.  The key is to love them no matter what!

When you fantasise you put other people on pedestals, and in the instance of relationships you put men on pedestals.  That's not fair to them, to expect them to live up to your movie fantasy and most often they will not because it isn't humanly possible.  Do you await your prince or knight in shining armour to sweep you off your feet?  Imagine the pressure on men to fulfill that fantasy?  And you may be waiting for a while as life is never only positive, eventually there will be cracks in the fantasy and you will be awoken to the reality that people are human and will have traits and behaviours you may not like. 

Sometimes your man will persue you and sometimes he will be focused on other aspects of life.  Sometimes he will woo you and other times he will need to spend time taking care of himself. To place such high expectations on another human being is to cause yourself to be disappointed.  By all means keep your standards high, but be realistic in your approach to love and relationships.  Love yourself first and focus on being who you want to be and partner with a man with whom you want to walk the path of life!